I am often asked to contribute blurbs and quotes as an "expert" for various articles. (I know, don't laugh. I know some shit.) Last week, I contributed a quote to an article called, The 7 People Who are Always Broke. The first day the article went live, it became so popular that it was picked up by several others sites, including the front page of Yahoo.
I thought, cool! My name is on the front page of Yahoo as an expert! Unfortunately, the editor of the article didn't allow any contributors to include links to their websites, so none of the tens of thousands of readers could actually find me if they wanted to know more. I decided instead to read through a few of the 429 comments to find folks who might be my kind of people, comment on their comments, and invite them to check out my work here on Journey to Wildness.
So there I am, skimming comments. Skimming, skimming, looking for some halfway awake person who might have read the article and was now looking for support to transform their relationship with money. Someone who wasn't angry or being a victim. Even someone who used correct spelling and grammar would be a good start. Skimming, skimming. . . and this is what I found:
"I'm broke because of the Republicans!"
"I'm broke because of the Democraps!" (Yes, intentional spelling.)
"I'm broke because of the [insert racial slur]'s on welfare!"
"I'm broke because of illegal aliens!"
After about 10 minutes, my shoulders were slouched, my eyebrows furrowed, my stomach in a tight knot, and my jaw clenched. I caught myself thinking, "Yeah. This country sucks. This world sucks. Everyone sucks. What's the point? Why try to help anyone?" - all Eeyore like. Yuck.
And then I remembered that this is why I don't read yahoo news stories - or most news stories, come to think of it. This is why I only spend time with positive, uplifting, inspiring people who affirm what I want to believe is true about the world - that people are generous, the universe is benevolent, and we are rewarded for following our passions. I guess I've just been doing it for so long now that I forgot there was a whole other contingent of bitter, angry folks stuck in victim land out there.
It's kind of like when I changed my eating habits to be much healthier, and then I go and get a random Big Mac or eat a whole bag of Cheetos and my body's all WHAT THE FUCK ARE YOU EATING I'M GOING TO PUNISH YOU ALL DAY! even though I used to eat that crap-masquerading-as-food all the time before. Know what I mean?
The moral of the story:
You all are awesome readers. Thanks for being positive, living from your authentic wildness, inspiring me with your stories of personal transformation, and just generally not sucking.
The other moral of the story:
Being on the front page of Yahoo is not all it's cracked up to be.
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Hello! I'm Melanie Munir, founder of Professional Wild Woman - a women's empowerment business dedicated to helping women who are tired of feeling either "too much" or "not enough" to connect to their inner wildness so they can create work that allows them the fullest expression of their unique voice. Welcome!