If you’re just tuning in, I’ve been blogging the spring section of my upcoming book, “Wild Woman, Awake!” as I write it, and sharing some of my clients’ favorite springy tools and activities. Welcome to part four!
Part One: Learn From the Trees (April 22nd)
Part Two: Prepare Your Soil (April 29th)
Part Three: Envision Your Harvest (May 6th)
Part Four: Plant Your Seeds (May 13th)
Part Five: Allow Your Anger to Fuel Your Growth (May 20th)
Ok, it’s time! You’ve prepared your “soil” for a new growing season by identifying and expanding limiting certitudes, and composting your garbage from last year’s season. You’ve envisioned your “harvest” at its peak by seeing your life at full fruition in the near future. Now you get to plant your “seeds” and actually take actions that will lead you toward that beautiful harvest.
Give Your Ideas a Chance
Spring is a time for beginnings, for trying things out, for planting a whole mess of seeds and seeing what grows. Not every seed you plant in a garden will turn into a seedling, and not every seedling will grow into a full, healthy plant. But you’ll never know which ones are viable unless you put them all in the ground and give them a chance.
I’ve seen so many women keep themselves from taking even a small action on an idea because of the multitude of ways they convince themselves it will never work. I can’t tell you how many women I’ve met at my workshops who introduce themselves to me by saying things like, “I’ve often thought about starting my own catering company, but ___________” or “Of course I’d love to actually submit my writing for others to read, except _________,” or “I have this idea, but it’s kind of silly because ___________.” They can’t even get through one sentence without asserting that their idea is “too expensive” or “no one will want it” or “someone is already doing that” or “I don’t know how I’d ever have the time” and on and on.
How can you expect a person to get anywhere with an idea that they’ve already determined is dead in the water, right? But the truth is, if they really believed it was hopeless, if they truly felt in their deepest of hearts that it was a bad idea that would never work, they wouldn’t still be talking about it. The fact that they continue to entertain the possibility means there is at least one, small part of them that thinks it might actually work.
Here’s the good news: That little part is all you need.
That little part that hopes your idea might be a good one provides enough energy to put a seed in the ground and see if it grows. You’ll have a chance to “thin out” your seedlings later in this chapter, so worse case scenario, if you plant the seed and it’s a dud, no problem. You get to say “se la vie” to that one and turn your attention to what is growing instead. But again, you won’t know which is which until you get those darn things in the ground.
Small Actions Are All it Takes
Or, here’s a different nature analogy if you’d like a little break from all of this seed talk. Have you ever gone rock-hopping down a river? It was one of my favorite activities as a kid growing up and playing in the woods of Pennsylvania.
I remember the thrill of hopping from one river rock to the next, balancing precariously on one stone just long enough to hop to the next. Sometimes I would lift my head, look down the river at my destination, and get discouraged. I’d think, “Oh man, there aren’t enough rocks to get me there. I’m going to have to get out or get wet.” But then I’d look down at my feet and see a tiny corner of a rock sticking out. I’d step on that. And then I’d see another dry rock, and another, and so on. Until I looked up and realized that I was at the place that I didn’t think it would be possible to get to.
You see where I’m going with this, yes? It’s good to set visions. You need a general idea of which direction you’re headed and what the river looks like down there in order to stay motivated. But the only way to get there is to put your head down and step on the next, tiny rock right in front of you.
Time To Do It
So, what are the small rocks you can step on this week that will bring you one step closer to your vision? Or, to return to the gardening analogy, what seeds do you need to put in the ground now so you can enjoy the beautiful harvest you envisioned last week in the Envision Your Harvest post?
In your journal, make a list of small actions you will take, starting now, to put things into motion. They should be small and doable within one day. For example, rather than writing “Start a mom’s group,” choose the first thing you’d do in order to create that group. Perhaps it’s “Call Sharon to see if she would be interested in starting a mom’s group with me,” or “Contact 3 possible locations to hold a mom’s group in my town.” Give yourself the satisfaction of check-off-able tasks. And post a comment here to tell us how it went!
If you’re the kind of wild woman who does better setting visions in a group, I’d love to have you join us for the one-day, in-person retreat, “Enact Your Vision!” on June 4th at Land of the Medicine Buddha in Soquel, California. TODAY is the final day for the early bird price. It is a pitch-free retreat (meaning all content, no sales pitches) and a great opportunity for wild woman sisterhood and inspiration, all in the magical setting of a monastery in the redwoods. Could registering today be your first, small action?
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Hello! I'm Melanie Munir, founder of Professional Wild Woman - a women's empowerment business dedicated to helping women who are tired of feeling either "too much" or "not enough" to connect to their inner wildness so they can create work that allows them the fullest expression of their unique voice. Welcome!