Um, ok. Obviously lots of us wild women needed to be reminded to take an effing break. Last week, I came out of hibernation long enough to write my first blog post of the year. It was about my 30-day game of rest, receiving and non-doing.
The response to this post was overwhelming. Comments poured in on the blog post itself, in my email inbox, and on the various Facebook pages where the link appeared. Things like:
Wow. I can so, so relate to this journey.I think this is such a crucial part of the conversation, especially in the entrepreneurship channels, where the focus is so much more on striving than on shining.
Ummmm . . . . HOLY SH*%$, Melanie. Thank. YOU. I got a very clear understanding from the sentence about feminism being equated with struggle. A palpable, intense hit. A major wake up. MAJOR.
I am always amazed at how when I shift something in me, I energetically shift what kind of clients are attracted to me. For years, I’ve been attracting women who wanted a firm hand or a kick in the butt. They wanted me to help them revision their lives and “get their shit together.”
In the two months since I have been practicing softening and receiving, the women who are coming to me are asking for something new: “Help me slow down,” they’re saying. “Help me get in touch with my soft, feminine, receptive side - without losing my power.”
Girl, now you’re speaking my language.
During one particular session last week, my client said, “I just realized that for the past two years, life has forced me to STOP going-going-going and doing-doing-doing for about a month during the winter.” Two years ago in the beginning of December this client lost her job, and last year at the same time, she had a debilitating injury that forced her to stay in bed for six weeks.
This got me thinking. What if she could plan for that downtime instead of letting her life be toppled upside down and forced into it? What if she could plan her whole year, including the financial aspects, around taking a month off to rest in winter? We spent the majority of the remainder of our session discussing this prospect.
After all, spring is the time for planting seeds, right? Not winter. If we try to ignore winter and just keep on planting seeds, not only will we probably not get results, we will exhaust ourselves trying to force open the frozen ground which is not yet ready to receive or nuture new life.
As evidence, let me tell you about one more client as a way to end this post. During our session earlier this week, she said, “Why does work feel so hard? It used to be easy getting clients.” So I gave her the homework to stop trying to get clients for one week. Stop pushing. Stop efforting. Stop working hard. Instead, her assignment was to surrender.
Just two days later, she posted this on Facebook:
Surrendering... Just got a 2 new clients today, and a current client asked me; "What are you doing differently? Your hair looks great, you're losing weight, you're looking more fit... wow you look beautiful." Surrender is going to be fun!
So be patient with yourself, dear wild women. Even nature needs to take a break sometimes. If you find that you get knocked down every winter (with sickness or something else that makes you stop) consider adding in a planned break. This way you can get the rest you need while still being in choice and retaining your power.
And if you’re tired of “working so hard.” Stop. Practice surrendering or receiving instead. Then let us know what happened!
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Hello! I'm Melanie Munir, founder of Professional Wild Woman - a women's empowerment business dedicated to helping women who are tired of feeling either "too much" or "not enough" to connect to their inner wildness so they can create work that allows them the fullest expression of their unique voice. Welcome!